1) Revisit the … 1) Revisit the concern with him; is he still attached to these pics and does he feel he must keep them? 2) If so, ask him to put them somewhere not in a common space where you can pull open a drawer and be confronted by them. He should keep them in his own space tucked away somewhere. Everyone likes to keep pics of themselves with exes, often because of nothing to do with the ex. I.e. they were younger, thinner, more active, maybe had all their hair etc… and it’s all about them not the ex.
it would bother me … it would bother me if my fiance had things from a pass relationship, but they are his things and to do anything to his property would be wrong. enjoy your wedding and try not to allow it to get to you. when you both come home from your honeymoon just sit down and explain to your husband how you feel and what you want him to do with the iteams…CONGRADULATIONS ON YOUR WEDDING AND ENJOY YOURSELF
im married and my … im married and my husbands past isnt around me cus he moved from another city, he has no pics or nothing thank god! but i kno from my ex fiance that i hated when i found pics of ex”s and when my ex fiance found pics of my ex he tore them up and threw them out and i was cus he didnt tell me and he ripped up one of an ex who died but in ur case i would prolly rip the one up of the chick i hated most lol only after askin him to get rid of them and if he didnt i would rip it up lol
@lantheflan be … @lantheflan be happy and enjoy your marriage that is his past and he obviously chose you!!! If IT REALLLY bothers you just talk to him let him know what you found and then kindly ask “hey can I get id of them?” I did that with my fiance and he let me throw them away. Sometimes we stress over a situation that really is no biggie at all. by the way sometimes its just nice to show ur future kids you and your husbands past even ex girlfriends or boyfriends lol SMILEEEE
dear you are NOT … dear you are NOT alone. It’s not a big deal and as much as we think that men and women are alike well the truth is we are not. We hold more emotional value to these photos and thats why if we had a bad ex we burn the picture and if good experience we might keep it a bit longer. MEN are very opposite its just a picture to them. Don’t sweat it. I had the same problem as you with my fiance and my sister with her husband. Men dont keep it because they still have feelings, its just a picture to them.
My husband came … My husband came home with his x-girlfriends phone number one time, after seeing her at the grocery store. I tore it up when he was not looking….
Remember men do not … Remember men do not think or process like women. Women connect our emotions to EVERYTHING in our lives. I have been known to get seriously emotional about socks! Men just don’t think that way. To him it is just a photo and that is all, nothing else. Focus on your new life with your husband. Always remember he chose you . . . Congratulaions on your knew life together, be blessed!
My hubby has photos … My hubby has photos of his ex’s still… It really bugs me, however they do belong to him and I cant make him get rid of them, though I have tried… I kinda realized that for him they are memories. lol, So I so know how you feel… I dont like it but they are packed away in a storage box and I dont have to look at them…
It’s a catch 22..My … It’s a catch 22..My husband has pictures his ex wife their kids/wedding/vacations etc.. It does bother me as much as I hmm dispies the woman about the same amount as I do my own exes..However u both are getting married soon.. & u’re the 1 he’s been w/ all this time..No matter how much you want to rid of them/burn them I’d simply tuck them back where they were ask him on a rainy day.. if it’s necessary to keep them around..Remember you have him now she doesn’t.. Rest & safe travels. hugs
Just remember YOU … Just remember YOU are the one he’s marrying. Just ask him when you get back home if he still needs these(waving pics at him while cleaning) or can you pitch them
ive been happily … ive been happily married for thirteen yyears and i still have pictures of my shady boyfriend . idk why i dont want to throw them away but i dont . and i have sooooo much respect for my husband not making my throw them away . he knows how much i love him dearly but these pictures are a time in my life that i dont want to throw away . i dont keep them because i love the guys in the picture or any thing just because . sorry i hope this helps . we have had a great marrage!!!!
I ditto leave them … I ditto leave them or put them in an envelope,box & ask him to do what he needs to w/ them. Don’t go into this new life together jealous or angry w/ him for keeping these memories, like one said, like prom photos. Let him know you found them, give them to him to store where you won’t have to come across them, or destroy if he wants to. Be honest, don’t destroy them behind his back. He may not be able to forgive you, & what a small thing really in the scheme of things to hold against eachother.
U know what, i used … U know what, i used to have some pics of my ex bf’s in my parents house, and one day i went i just threw them to the garbage for respect to my husband, i wouldn’t want him to see them or something, I think u should burn them or throw them to the garbagge and if he asks for them then he will get in trouble lol
i prefer he more … i prefer he more respect YOUR feelings as his bride and the woman he chose than worrying about respecting HIS right to have those pictures. He should not even hesitate to burn them FOR you!
BUT, if he has a … BUT, if he has a special place where he keeps just photos of old girlfriends’ and there’s no other reason to have them … then whoah!!! Danger Will Robinson!!! He’s keeping them then to remember times he was with THEM. I wouldn’t burn them, but if he insisted, knowing it would bother you … that is NOT a good sign. Cont’d
Here’s my take. If … Here’s my take. If there are just some odd photos in albums and the pictures have other memories attached to them (i.e. a trip or a friend’s wedding say) then I wouldn’t even blink. Cont’d…
Those would have … Those would have been gone a long time ago if they were in MY house! But you are a bigger (or not BIGGER) but better person then me for letting him do it. What is his reason for keeping them? The first thing i am doing when i divorce is burning ALL the pics of him. But thats me… memories in my head are enough. I dont need pics, especially if it was a bad breakup and we arent friends anymore. But my and my hub are still friends (well for now) and Im still burning them lol
I have pictures … I have pictures hanging in my house that my DH’s ex took (and if I look closely enough, I can see her reflection in one of them). Those pictures are the past. You are his future. Think of them like prom photos… You wouldn’t ask him to throw those away, would you? Seems silly to, b/c it was a different time in his life. He moved past that. Same is true now. The pictures will just get old and fade, but your love will be vibrant and endure.
Marriage is about … Marriage is about respect, and that includes respect for his things and memories. Leave them be my friend. he has made his choice. Someday you will find them gone and he will have done it himself.
Leave them as a … Leave them as a reminder that his life is ssssssssssso much better now.
Jealousy is a useless and toxic thing to allow in your new life. Put them back where they were and bring it up later and most likely he will be ready to get rid of them himself.
Let them be as they … Let them be as they are his memories & his past. His past prepared him 4 ur relationship & made him realize that u were the 1 he wanted to marry not them.
Fyi – Hubby & I are going to celebrate 20 yrs in Sept & I ran across his box of love notes frm the EX. I actually handed them to him & he laughed asking why I kept them all these yrs. We had a conversation that it was not up to me & if he wanted, he could still keep Julie around. He threw them away & told me he only wanted me.
The best thing is … The best thing is to not overthink this – he wants to marry you, not her! My partner has pics of his ex (his sister is still best friends with her) but it does not bother me even though she was unkind and hurt many. The fact is, we all have a past and I still have old letters, pictures as well. My keeping them is not because I don’t love my partner, it is because it is okay to own ones past while looking to the future. Otherwise, why would we want to take pictures or keep journals at all?
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
1) Revisit the …
1) Revisit the concern with him; is he still attached to these pics and does he feel he must keep them? 2) If so, ask him to put them somewhere not in a common space where you can pull open a drawer and be confronted by them. He should keep them in his own space tucked away somewhere. Everyone likes to keep pics of themselves with exes, often because of nothing to do with the ex. I.e. they were younger, thinner, more active, maybe had all their hair etc… and it’s all about them not the ex.
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
it would bother me …
it would bother me if my fiance had things from a pass relationship, but they are his things and to do anything to his property would be wrong. enjoy your wedding and try not to allow it to get to you. when you both come home from your honeymoon just sit down and explain to your husband how you feel and what you want him to do with the iteams…CONGRADULATIONS ON YOUR WEDDING AND ENJOY YOURSELF
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
im married and my …
but in ur case i would prolly rip the one up of the chick i hated most lol only after askin him to get rid of them and if he didnt i would rip it up lol
im married and my husbands past isnt around me cus he moved from another city, he has no pics or nothing thank god! but i kno from my ex fiance that i hated when i found pics of ex”s and when my ex fiance found pics of my ex he tore them up and threw them out and i was cus he didnt tell me and he ripped up one of an ex who died
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
@lantheflan be …
even ex girlfriends or boyfriends lol 
SMILEEEE
@lantheflan be happy and enjoy your marriage that is his past and he obviously chose you!!! If IT REALLLY bothers you just talk to him let him know what you found and then kindly ask “hey can I get id of them?” I did that with my fiance and he let me throw them away. Sometimes we stress over a situation that really is no biggie at all. by the way sometimes its just nice to show ur future kids you and your husbands past
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
dear you are NOT …
dear you are NOT alone. It’s not a big deal and as much as we think that men and women are alike well the truth is we are not. We hold more emotional value to these photos and thats why if we had a bad ex we burn the picture and if good experience we might keep it a bit longer. MEN are very opposite its just a picture to them. Don’t sweat it. I had the same problem as you with my fiance and my sister with her husband. Men dont keep it because they still have feelings, its just a picture to them.
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
My husband came …
My husband came home with his x-girlfriends phone number one time, after seeing her at the grocery store. I tore it up when he was not looking….
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Remember men do not …
Remember men do not think or process like women. Women connect our emotions to EVERYTHING in our lives. I have been known to get seriously emotional about socks! Men just don’t think that way. To him it is just a photo and that is all, nothing else. Focus on your new life with your husband. Always remember he chose you . . . Congratulaions on your knew life together, be blessed!
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
My hubby has photos …
My hubby has photos of his ex’s still… It really bugs me, however they do belong to him and I cant make him get rid of them, though I have tried… I kinda realized that for him they are memories. lol, So I so know how you feel… I dont like it but they are packed away in a storage box and I dont have to look at them…
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
It’s a catch 22..My …
It’s a catch 22..My husband has pictures his ex wife their kids/wedding/vacations etc.. It does bother me as much as I hmm dispies the woman about the same amount as I do my own exes..However u both are getting married soon.. & u’re the 1 he’s been w/ all this time..No matter how much you want to rid of them/burn them I’d simply tuck them back where they were ask him on a rainy day.. if it’s necessary to keep them around..Remember you have him now she doesn’t.. Rest & safe travels. hugs
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Just remember YOU …
Just remember YOU are the one he’s marrying. Just ask him when you get back home if he still needs these(waving pics at him while cleaning) or can you pitch them
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
ive been happily …
ive been happily married for thirteen yyears and i still have pictures of my shady boyfriend . idk why i dont want to throw them away but i dont . and i have sooooo much respect for my husband not making my throw them away . he knows how much i love him dearly but these pictures are a time in my life that i dont want to throw away . i dont keep them because i love the guys in the picture or any thing just because . sorry i hope this helps . we have had a great marrage!!!!
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
I ditto leave them …
I ditto leave them or put them in an envelope,box & ask him to do what he needs to w/ them. Don’t go into this new life together jealous or angry w/ him for keeping these memories, like one said, like prom photos. Let him know you found them, give them to him to store where you won’t have to come across them, or destroy if he wants to. Be honest, don’t destroy them behind his back. He may not be able to forgive you, & what a small thing really in the scheme of things to hold against eachother.
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
U know what, i used …
U know what, i used to have some pics of my ex bf’s in my parents house, and one day i went i just threw them to the garbage for respect to my husband, i wouldn’t want him to see them or something, I think u should burn them or throw them to the garbagge and if he asks for them then he will get in trouble lol
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
i prefer he more …
i prefer he more respect YOUR feelings as his bride and the woman he chose than worrying about respecting HIS right to have those pictures. He should not even hesitate to burn them FOR you!
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
BUT, if he has a …
BUT, if he has a special place where he keeps just photos of old girlfriends’ and there’s no other reason to have them … then whoah!!! Danger Will Robinson!!! He’s keeping them then to remember times he was with THEM. I wouldn’t burn them, but if he insisted, knowing it would bother you … that is NOT a good sign. Cont’d
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Here’s my take. If …
Here’s my take. If there are just some odd photos in albums and the pictures have other memories attached to them (i.e. a trip or a friend’s wedding say) then I wouldn’t even blink. Cont’d…
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Those would have …
Those would have been gone a long time ago if they were in MY house! But you are a bigger (or not BIGGER) but better person then me for letting him do it. What is his reason for keeping them? The first thing i am doing when i divorce is burning ALL the pics of him. But thats me… memories in my head are enough. I dont need pics, especially if it was a bad breakup and we arent friends anymore. But my and my hub are still friends (well for now) and Im still burning them lol
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
I have pictures …
I have pictures hanging in my house that my DH’s ex took (and if I look closely enough, I can see her reflection in one of them). Those pictures are the past. You are his future. Think of them like prom photos… You wouldn’t ask him to throw those away, would you? Seems silly to, b/c it was a different time in his life. He moved past that. Same is true now. The pictures will just get old and fade, but your love will be vibrant and endure.
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Marriage is about …
Marriage is about respect, and that includes respect for his things and memories. Leave them be my friend. he has made his choice. Someday you will find them gone and he will have done it himself.
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Leave them as a …
Leave them as a reminder that his life is ssssssssssso much better now.
Jealousy is a useless and toxic thing to allow in your new life. Put them back where they were and bring it up later and most likely he will be ready to get rid of them himself.
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
Let them be as they …
Let them be as they are his memories & his past. His past prepared him 4 ur relationship & made him realize that u were the 1 he wanted to marry not them.
Fyi – Hubby & I are going to celebrate 20 yrs in Sept & I ran across his box of love notes frm the EX. I actually handed them to him & he laughed asking why I kept them all these yrs. We had a conversation that it was not up to me & if he wanted, he could still keep Julie around. He threw them away & told me he only wanted me.
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
I agree with …
I agree with BandedWendy. Who cares? They are memories of the past, all that brought him to you!!
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
I agree with take …
I agree with take two….BURN THEM ALL!!!
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
BURN IT NOW! He …
BURN IT NOW! He will not have the guts to bring it up! HA
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
The best thing is …
The best thing is to not overthink this – he wants to marry you, not her! My partner has pics of his ex (his sister is still best friends with her) but it does not bother me even though she was unkind and hurt many. The fact is, we all have a past and I still have old letters, pictures as well. My keeping them is not because I don’t love my partner, it is because it is okay to own ones past while looking to the future. Otherwise, why would we want to take pictures or keep journals at all?